December's Wall of Shamer-Another Drunk

This month's Wall of Shamer has a lot of similarities to The Clown.  He came into the Girls Uncorked Annual Holiday event (where boyfriends and husbands of the women of Girls Uncorked are allowed in) with his lady and seemed nice at first.  I even thought he was kind of cute and started chatting with him.  However, as soon as this Clown 2.0 started drinking, it was like deja-vu all over again.  A life-of-the-party type guy turned into the party asshole as soon as the alcohol kicked in. Why?  My guess was he was extremely uncomfortable.

As you may know, the Girls Uncorked is a social event for women in the swinging lifestyle.  There is never any charge associated with attending the Girls Uncorked events.  The goal of Girls Uncorked is to empower women and help establish a strong community of swinging, open-minded, non-vanilla women.  The holiday party was completely free and the women and couples were welcome to bring a bottle of wine and appetizers.  So, how did Clown 2.0 get drunk off wine? Well, he didn't.  He brought in a flask of scotch concealed in his pocket.  What a high school level trick to pull.  I don't understand why a douche would bring a secret stash of alcohol to this kind of party.  After all, what is so great about getting drunk, acting like a moron, turning off all the ladies and prohibiting yourself from maintaining a hard-on at such an amazing party?  Maybe he should have taken his flask and gone to the AA holiday party instead. But, this lucky jerk was invited to an amazing, free erotic event in NYC with the sexiest, young women and couples and just couldn't mind his manners.

As soon as people started getting a frisky, Clown 2.0 started acting up.  He approached one woman who was flirting with his girlfriend and encouraged her to do "clit shots."  At first, we laughed at him and his comments, but as the night progressed, Clown 2.0 started getting more and more annoying and pushy.  He started raising his voice and screaming "THIS IS THE BEST PARTY I'VE EVER BEEN TO!"  Obnoxious, yes, but still not that bad.  Then I was began to hear all kinds of fucked up complaints about this tool and had to kick him out.  If he had only visited my blog and read up on proper etiquette maybe he wouldn't have acted like such a jackass.  In fact, a few of the ladies were very interested in his girlfriend and he probably would have had the time of his life if he stayed sober and acted like a gentleman.  I'm talking multiple threesomes at the least!  But, he didn't and you may be beginning to see a pattern with some of these Wall of Shamers.  In fact, I received an email from two women who throw parties in Canada who thanked me for posting the Wall.  They said that they encounter the same types of individuals that written about on the Wall.  They thanked me for being brutally honest and sharing my experiences.  Ladies, it's my pleasure!

New Years Eve Party



You're a hard working person dealing with the tumultuous day-to-day roller coaster that is life in the NY metro area. You're looking for an erotic playground where you're free to explore your wildest fantasies in a fun but relaxed environment. You want to be surrounded by beautiful, sexy women and hot couples. Well, look no further. It's here. What you do Behind Closed Doors is your business... and truly anything can happen!

Behind Closed Doors presents our annual New Years Eve party on Thursday, December 31st, at a beautiful, upscale loft in Midtown.
 

Behind Closed Doors combines the flirtation and sexiness of an off-premise party with the freedom of an on-premise party.  At Behind Closed Doors, ladies rule -- and we decide how things go.  It will be a true women's paradise, as I have thousands of dollars of sex toys to GIVE AWAY to each and every guest!


Other highlights include:

*Champagne toast at midnight
*Premium sex toys for EVERY female attending -Sponsored by Adam and Eve!
*Pastease giveaways - Sponsored by Pastease!

*The return of the Sybian machine, the $1400 "ultimate vibrator" as made famous by Howard Stern
*Complimentary Swing School provided to all beginners in the first hour of the party
*Rapture rockin' Hip-Hop/House/Latin beats

Come join us on Thursday, Dec 31.  Registration and prepayment is required.  The price of the party for the ladies is $10 and $120 for the couples.  If you have never attended one of our parties before, you must complete the Behind Closed Doors application process.  If you are selected, you must provide a phone number where the woman of the couple can be reached for an interview.  Please register at the Behind Closed Doors website:






November Wall of Shame

November's Wall-of-Shamer is a guy I met at a recent party I hosted.  At first, the man seemed fine; he was outgoing and full of compliments.  However, after one too many drinks, a jerk emerged.  He began offering suggestions as to how I should run the event -- from mixer games to what type of porn I should play.  I always appreciate suggestions, but he wouldn't leave me alone!  He also didn't seem to understand that I don't force hookups at Behind Closed Doors events.  Instead, I let things happen organically.  If there is chemistry, couples and single ladies can figure it out!  In fact, I told him how much I despise games that force you to hook up with someone you have absolutely no attraction to.

I told him, "Look around, have you ever seen a hotter, or friendlier, crowd at any other party you've ever been to?"  He replied, "No."  Quite simply, Behind Closed Doors events afford couples with every opportunity to meet other like-minded couples and have fun.  It was 10:30pm and already two couples had started get frisky in the playing area.  The guy continued to follow me around to the point of harassment.  Instead of communicating and flirting with the other guests, he simply trailed me -- I think he wanted to hook up.  He reiterated, "Well, you should definitely play games at the parties-let's get that 23-year old couple in the corner to play."  I again explained to him that playing forced hookup games were not my style and none of the guests needed to be pushed into doing something they don't want to do.  Everything that happens during my party is completely organic and women always decide what they want to do and what they don't want to do.  In fact, I have been in at parties in NYC where hosts have tried to force me to do things I don't want to do.  It is disgusting and I would never put anyone in such a predicament.  Besides, it was the 23-year old couple's first time at a party and they were feeling everything out.  Sometimes it takes a few parties to get comfortable.  But later in the evening, that couple ended up having sex right next to another young, beginner couple.  They felt so comfortable and confident precisely because no one ever pushes or forces hookups at my parties.

After a few more minutes, the man came back and told me "Well, we should get a big, circle bed so everyone in the party can jump in."  This man just did not get it.  I was not going to force hookups in order for him to get some.  I wish he had only put his pride aside and showed up to Swing School.  But he didn't and stood around hoping that I would find him a naive, young couple to hook up with.  Fortunately, his wife understood what I was trying to tell him.  She walked over and made some new friends and the couples hooked up and had some fun.  However, this man still gets a slap on the wrist for not understanding that forced hookup games are for losers without any skill and there is nothing sexy about them.  I guess I can't blame him too much - his past experiences at other parties have led him to to behave in such a manner.

Divine Vibe Review

Babeland's Divine Vibe is another new-age sex toy for women. The shape of the vibrator is unique because it is angled to stimulate that hard-to-reach G-spot. I really liked the design of the toy as well as the packaging. But, as nice as the boy looked inside the box, the real test came when I inserted it inside me. I put on one of my favorite porn series, Fuck Team Five by BangBros. to get me riled up. I placed the batteries inside the toy (batteries not included) and turned it on. I'm not a big fan of overly-powerful vibrators so I thought the speed was just right.


As I watched my favorite ladies seduce men on TV, I was ready to put the Divine Vibe inside. The ribbed center felt a little weird at first and the vibe itself is a tad wider than usual so you may want to keep some lube at hand. The end of the vibe reached my G-spot but as I started masterbating, I wished that the tip of the toy was made of a softer material. As I got more excited, I started working the vibrator in and out of me. I put one finger on my clit and rubbed. The vibrator had the right intensity for me, but may not be strong enough for women who like a littel more juice (figuratively).

I would recommend the Divine Vibe for ladies that are looking for an all-in-one water-proof vibrator (yes, you can take it in the shower) that stimulates the G-spot.


If you would like to purchase a Divine Vibe from Babeland, please click here.

Product name: Divine Vibe
Product retail value: $37
Available at: Babeland
The positive/negative breakdown:

+
*Portable device
*Cool design
*Waterproof
*Vibration speed intensity is just right

-
*Non-rechargeable-requires 4 AAA batteries
*You may not like hard vibrators
*The G-spot extension is too hard
*The vibration speed is not intense enough

Overall score: 3.5 out of 5 stars


Tiger at BCD?

My email box has been flooded with inquiries from Behind Closed Doors guests as to whether Tiger Woods was in fact at one of the Behind Closed Doors sex parties earlier in the year.  I can neither confirm nor deny that Tiger Woods attended any event due to our strict privacy policy.  It is extremely important that I protect the identity of each and every BCD guest.  When it comes to celebrities, I am even more cautious because I do not want to fuel media frenzy or endanger the anonymity of the rest of my guests.

I typically instruct celebrities that wish to attend our events to come incognito so that even the other guests do not recognize them.  Status and fame don't matter at our parties, because everyone is classy and intelligent.  It's all about raw attraction and passion.  Where can else can you go to find a crowd of hand-picked, sexy couples and single women who are sexually open minded and ready to play?

One thing that I will say is -- if Tiger Woods did attend, he most certainly did not come with his wife, Elin Nordegren.  If he had brought her, and attended Swing School, perhaps the couple would have opened new lines of communication so Tiger could be honest about his obvious sexual needs and allowed to explore them in a safe, controlled environment.  In return, maybe Elin could have gotten with another strapping hunk of a man as well!

I will also comment that dozens of celebrities have in fact attended our parties, and they are always impressed with how I handle discretion and my advice to them on how to approach the evening.  Indeed, lawyers, doctors, bankers, and even politicians who also attend our parties are always discreet -- what happens Behind Closed Doors stays there!

Casual Sex

Vanillas often judge open-minded swingers for having multiple sexual relations and believe that having casual sex causes emotional and psychological damage.  Well, a surprising new study reveals that having casual sex may not be a bad thing.  That is, if you are responsible and safe, of course. 

Despite the pervasive belief that hooking up casually is detrimental to the well-being of young adults, researchers found that not to be the case in a recent study, reports the Minneapolis Star Tribune.
The study asked 1,311 Minnesota-based young adults, between the ages of 18 and 24, about their most recent sexual experiences, their self-esteem and their general well-being after the experience.
Only one-fifth of the subjects said their most recent experience was casual. And overall, their emotional status wasn’t any different from those who said their last sexual experience was with a committed partner.

“We were so surprised,” said Marla Eisenberg, who is an assistant professor at the university School of Public Health.  “The conventional wisdom is that casual sex, 'friends with benefits,' and hooking up is hurtful. That's what we've been teaching kids for decades,” she said, adding that abstinence-only sex education programs in particular enforce this notion.

After the Party ...

I throw erotic events in NYC for fun because my husband Rocco and I wanted to introduce something entirely unique to the city; a selective party that attracts open-minded, attractive people and cultivates an entirely organic sexual experience. New Yorkers are some of the hottest (but most stressed) people in the world, and we wanted to provide them with a clean, classy, erotic environment to explore their sexuality. We simply wanted to throw the kinds of parties that we would want to attend. I run all the parties and make sure the ladies have a great time. My parties are all about female sexual empowerment. I also screen all of my guests to ensure everyone has a fantastic time. Hosting the parties and School of Sex seminars is not my full-time job. In fact, I have a very successful career and do not run the School of Sex to make money. I guess you can call me a sexual philanthropist -- between my time and the expensive venues I utilize, I am lucky to break even on an event at the low prices we charge.

In order to manage my personal life with my philanthropic efforts to help other, young, like-minded people explore their sexuality, I live a "double-life." In fact, you may have read about my double-life in publications such as Time Out NY.  I never mix my swinger life with my life outside the parties. But I recently made an exception in order to combat a stereotype I overheard at a local Manhattan diner.

After hosting our after-eXXXotica party, Rocco and I decided to make a pit stop at one of our favorite diners before heading home. We have a tradition of having a 5am breakfast after a party where we discuss all the crazy sex and fun we just saw (and had). Our minds are racing and it is the ultimate "high" to see and experience all of your fantasies come true. This is in part a reason why I started writing the Swing in the City blog. I never want to forget all my sexy adventures and want to share them with the world. This also gives the both of us a chance to talk about any fun the other had not seen seen. For example, Rocco told me in the diner about how crazy it was to see Totally Tabitha suck so many cocks and eat out Bella. Can't believe I missed that!

As Rocco and I finished our eggs and discussed the steamy details of the party, we heard someone else use the word "orgy" in conversation. Then we heard the word "swinger." I didn't say it, neither did Rocco--so who else could be talking about orgies at 5:00AM? I noticed a group, three guys and a girl, sitting in a booth across the restaurant. They were in their early twenties, and were rather loud. So, we couldn't help but listen in to their conversation. The entire group was drunk and it was difficult to make out some of their banter, but they were definitely talking about swing parties.

As we listened closer, we heard the girl say to her wasted male friends, "Well, I just don't know anyone who would do that. And, aren't the people that come like really gross? I mean, what girl would want do that? You don't even get to choose who you sleep with; I think you just have to do everyone there!" I smiled at Rocco; we both knew what we had to do. We went over to their booth and Rocco politely interjected, "I'm sorry, but we couldn't help but overhear your conversation...We actually just came back from the hottest orgy in the city."


Intrigued, the girl looked over at me. I told her, "I actually arrange the parties, and they're nothing like what you guys were talking about. Our guests are hot and intelligent; no one is ever forced to do anything that he or she doesn't want to. " She asked me, "Well, how does it work? Because my friend is telling me that the women don't have a choice and they have to just fuck everyone!" I looked over at her misinformed friend and smiled at the fact that she thought he was the authority. I explained to her how the parties work and how women choose what they want to do and what they don't want to do. A third friend of theirs, who was probably one drink short of needing medical attention, looks over at us and says, "So, you guys are like this...you are like this milkshake?" I was puzzled at his statement because no one was actually drinking a milkshake at their table. At first, I thought he was making some sort of intellectual analogy but then he opened his mouth up again after taking a sip of his mixed drink and proved himself to be just another wasted drunk. He looked at Rocco and asked, "Can we please trade watches?" This dude was wasted.

The girl told me, "Well, my friend here says he wants to host an orgy at his place." OK, well that explained why he informed her that all the women attending must fuck all the men -- he wanted some!! "Well, good luck with that," I interjected. He asked me, "Wait, how can I get into your party? Can you give me a business card?" I replied, "Sorry. Our parties are by invitation only and have become popular through word of mouth. But, you can read all about me in Time Out NY." The ultra-drunk friend says to us "Wait!" as we walked away. I heard him say, as we made our way out, "Whoa, did that really just happen to us?"

I know that couples have been to some sketchy swinger clubs and parties in the city and that's where these types of rumors about "gross people" at sex parties start. I'm trying to end all that by providing a party that New Yorkers have never experienced before... and it's working!

Happy Anniversary! And, Charlie and Leilene Are the Best People Ever!

School of Sex and Behind Closed Doors were happy to celebrate our one year anniversary in November 2009.  We invited all of our approved members who previously attended our events to come out and celebrate this special milestone with us.  But since our credo is to introduce beginners into the lifestyle, we also extended a few invitations to couples who haven't had the chance to attend one of our parties.  And how did we celebrate our anniversary?  By taking care of all the expenses and providing our guests a chance to attend a party at absolutely no cost!  But wait, I know what you're thinking-you've never heard of a free on-premise couples party before.  Was Behind Closed Doors trying to up-sell anything?  Were guests forced to purchase bottle service or Swing School lessons?  What was the catch?

If you've read about my past parties, you probably know that I like to do things a little differently than other swing parties you may have heard of or been to.  So, no, I wasn't trying to up-sell any items, services or anything like that.  In fact, we even provided a free Swing School--no strings attached.  School of Sex took care of all the affiliated costs of hosting a party at a prime location in a cozy but sexy midtown Manhattan space.  With the help of our friend and sponsor, Sam--the original King of Swing--we were able to host an amazing party and provide the community with a totally unique party the likes of which New York has never heard of!  Who would be crazy enough to lose money on a free event?  People who are not trying to profit off swing parties but are trying to grow the swingers community and provide people with many sources of information, counseling and a place to meet other, like-minded individuals such as themselves--that is the principal behind School of Sex and that is what makes us so different than anything else out there.

Our Swing School session was very popular, as usual.  We were fortunate enough to see so many of our old friends who wanted to help out the newcomers during Swing School.  Our friends included Julie, who brought a girlfriend and a boyfriend along, Leilene and Charlie, Larry and Sidney, Liza and Berry, and Mr. and Mrs. Kinky.  Leilene was extremely helpful during the Swing School, taking the opportunity to share her experiences in the swing scene thus far.  I'm thinking of inducting her as a School of Sex instructor and enlisting her help in teaching the oral sex classes (yes, she's THAT good)!  Her positive energy spread like wild fire and soon everyone was engaging in stimulating and naughty conversations.  She came over and told me that she was so glad to see so many new people come out and she couldn't wait to make new friends.  And that's why Leilene and Charlie, who was equally helpful and enthusiastic, are the best people ever!

As soon as the School ended, I made my rounds and introduced myself to all the new faces.  A few of these new guests were shy, others were more outgoing.  One couple was pretty nervous when they arrived, but managed to feel a part of the group as soon as we introduced them to some other couples.  I turned around and noticed that Leilene and Charlie had already made their way to the play areas!  They brought some new friends over with them and it didn't take long for them to start playing.  It was barely 10:30 PM and the party was already kickin'.


Liza invited her friend who was dressed a pin-up girl -- yes, she had the aura, outfit, the hair, and the makeup! This beautiful babe was HOT, and she had some cum-tastic curves.  She and Liza both wore tight corsets (and I mean TIGHT).  Their boobs were looking juicy-licious and the outfits were perfectly framed for their bodies.  In fact, Liza's friend was a costume designer and she obviously had some talent.  She wanted to take the Sybian for a ride and I was more than happy to help teach her how to use the machine.  As soon as she increased the vibration speed, she started moaning.  Watching a pin-up girl on a Sybian...was I having a dream?  No-it was really happening!  She was loving the ride and started gently moaning.  In addition to the moaning, she had these incredible facial expressions that could make a person cum just by watching her.  Along with her "Oh's" and "Ah's" she tightened her lips and closed her eyes as she rode the Sybian saddle like a cowgirl.  With her last "Mmmm" she came.  Phew!  The women around her wanted to be next in line to ride after she got off (literally).  And, if you're still looking for the "catch" to our free, on-premise swingers party and were wondering if I charged women to ride the Sybian--think again, almost a dozen ladies got to ride the $1350 "ultimate vibrator" made famous by Howard Stern and numerous ladies in porn including Jenna Jameson for free.  There really was no catch!

The gorgeous Mrs. Kinky and her hot husband started talking to me and Rocco.  I was already turned on by our conversation but then she brought out her lethal weapon!  She had a vibrating glove that she rubbed all over my body.  I was already so very horny but she put me over the edge!  What a sexy vixen and what a naughty toy.  I wanted to make sure all the guests, especially our newbie friends, were relaxed and having a good time -- I knew they were when I saw smiles and sexy conversations all around, so I went over to the play area and started playing with Leilene.


I was having a hot time playing with Leilene, Charlie and two of our Private List friends who dropped by.  I love to watch the reactions of my playmates while getting down with them -- especially when they are vocal or physically expressive.  Leilene gave me her best moans and reactions as I slid my fingers deep inside of her.  I licked her sweet clit while my fingers were still inside; I could feel her tightening up on me so I inserted yet another finger inside.  She contracted her muscles and moaned louder and louder.  I could see the look of pure ecstasy on her face as she shook and came again.  She tightened up so much around my now dripping wet fingers that I gasped in disbelief.  What amazing keigel control!  All I could think of was how amazing it would feel for a cock inside her...


I looked to the corner and saw three of the beginner couples who had never been to any swing parties before.  They were all going at it!  It was so hot to watch and I felt really happy that I was able to make them feel right at home.  I also saw Sydney (who had been to a party previously) get comfortable enough for her first full swap ever!  The swap had actually been preceded by her first girl-girl session, so it was a night of many "firsts" for Sydney!  As always, we had a fantastic crowd of welcoming, friendly, open-minded friends with great attitudes -- but the fact that we got all our new couples to be comfortable enough to play and show off in front of others...well, let's just say that was the icing on our anniversary cake!


Thank you to all the Behind Closed Doors members for making our first anniversary such a fantastic and wonderful one.  Cheers!