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The Dilution of the Term "Swinger"

I've noticed a trend over the past few years.  It's cool to be a swinger again.  Perhaps we have reason to thank the surge of off-premise parties for this resurgence, or maybe people are really becoming more sexually liberated in this country.  After all, in 2007 there was even a prime time television show on CBS entitled "Swing Town."

But what is a swinger?  It is someone who is sexually curious, like a woman who wants to experience another female?  How about couples who go to off-premise parties to dance half-naked and take dozens of pictures to show how wild and cool they are?  I would argue that none of those people are swingers.  Swingers are people who have sexual encounters with numerous people who they are not in a relationship with.  But does oral still count as a sexual encounter?  According to President Clinton, it wouldn't... but who was he kidding?  On that note, I should also say that cheating is never swinging -- swingers are open with their partners about the sexual activities they engage in and, most commonly, participate in those activities together.

So, yes, those who swap partners, or have multiple sexual partners, would be considered swingers even if it was just oral sex.  However, oral sex swappers would likely be considered "soft swap" whereas those who swap with full sexual intercourse would be considered "full swap."


Lately, a slew of parties, sites, and people have been diluting the term "swinger."  The vast majority of the guests of these parties, members of these websites, and so called next generation of "swingers" have no intention of participating in any kind of sexual activity -- they just want to be in a sexy environment.  For real swingers, this can be extremely frustrating.  Imagine going to a party where girls are making out, rubbing on guys, and acting very flirtatious -- and then, nothing.  Zero chance of anything happening at the event because it's off-premise and sexual activity is forbidden.  Often, even nudity is forbidden and Pastease are distributed out of necessity.  You approach that hot couple and ask if they'd like to come back to your place.  They look at you, puzzled, and say, "Nah, we're good, we're just going to have some more drinks and talk to our friends."

If that's anything like "blue balls," I feel bad for you guys.  I've been in situations where gorgeous women seduced me on the dance floor and got me soaking wet and horny, only to find out that these women are not full-swappers, soft-swappers, or swingers at all.  It's worse than being teased at a strip club, because at a "swinger party" there is supposed to be the possibility of getting laid, or finding suitable partners.

At a Behind Closed Doors party, by contrast, you will find that most people are indeed either soft or full swappers.  But we always have a sizable number of exhibitionists, voyeurs, and the mere curious to my parties as well.  After all, swinging is not for everyone, and our parties aren't just a massive orgy (although they usually end up that way).

Swinging is hardcore.  Those with financial interests in certain parties and websites exploit the term because sex sells.  Teasing people with the prospect of a sexy "swing" party and selling them drinks can be quite lucrative.  But, on a sexual level, you're not getting jack; it's really bullshit.  What we need is a universal sign, greeting, or piece of jewelry for swingers so that we don't get sucked in by vanilla fakers.. or you can just stick with me and School of Sex -- we'll never steer you wrong.

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